My 3-year-old sometimes likes to have “coffee” with me. So I have my fresh coffee and he has his coffee milk. Today, like 3 year olds often do, he spilled his. Understandably, he was quite upset. I helped him clean it up and I gave him a bit of my coffee in some more milk (giving away your own coffee is an act of true love). He was happy again.
Then he said “If you spill your coffee, I will help you clean it up”. So sweet. He has learned that messes happen and don’t have to a big deal. That Mom helps clean up the mess and he does not have to feel bad. He has learned that it feels good to help other people in the same way he has been helped. He has learned to just clean the spill and move on.